Table of Contents of: And a Sword Shall Pierce Your Heart: Moving from Despair to Meaning after the Death of a Child

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Part One:  Archetypal Reactions to Child Loss
 
Chapter One: My Twice Lost Child
Reasons for Telling...Duncanís Childhood:  A Shooting Star...Schizophrenia:  The Star Burns Out...Terrible Mother or Caretaker?...Chaos and Peace at Last...PAGE  1
 
Chapter Two:  Understanding the Archetype
The Child Archetype... The Mother Archetype... The God Archetype... The Archetype of Meaning... The Dark Side of Archetype....PAGE 10
 
Chapter Three: How We Mourn: Themes, Phases, and a Myth
The Need to Know... Unexpected and Unprepared... The Intensity of Our Reactions... Discovering Phases in Womenís Mourning... Chaos:  Destroyer and Informer... Time:  How Long Will it Take?... Changes in Oneís Sense of Time... Rite of Passage:  A Time of Liminality... The Isis Myth:  Weeping, Searching, Solitude and Incubation, Nursing and Compassion, Reconstruction....PAGE 29
 
Chapter Four: Grief in the Family:  Understanding Differences
A Diversity of Gifts...How Men Grieve...Couples Estranged...The Family as an Archetypal System...Adolescence and the Loss of Innocence....PAGE 62

Chapter Five:  The Unlived Life: Fetuses and Infants
When No life Has Been Lived:  The Barren Woman... The Miscarriage... Sudden Infant Death Syndrome... The Mortally Ill Child.....PAGE 95
 
Chapter Six:  The Long Illness and The Special Case of Aids
Anticipatory Grief:  From Fatal Diagnosis to Death...
Dealing with The Mother and Nurse Archetypes... Ways of Facing the End:  Conflicting Tasks... The Special Case of Aids... The Outcast Archetype:  Leprosy and AIDS...The Homosexual Outcast... Virginia:  Mother, Nurse and Mourner....PAGE 114 .
 
Chapter Seven:  Sudden and Violent Deaths: Accidents, Negligent Homicide, and Military Casualties
Why Have Accidents?  Aristotle and the Myth of Balder...
Facing Fate... Negligent Homicide:  Kimís Fate... A Plane Crash:  Carmenís Fate... Death in the Military:  Sacrifice of the Hero... Wars Without Support... Deaths in Vietnam...World War I and World War II:  Blue Stars Turn to Gold... Honoring All Heroes....PAGE 136.
 
Chapter Eight:  Sudden and the Violent Death:  Murder
Confessed Murderers in a Senseless Robbery:  Struggles with Criminal Justice...Archetypal Justice:  Orestes and The Furies...Cookieís Story:  Murderer and Mediatrix...Bluebeard and the Part That Wonít Be Seen...
Murder in the Family:  Jennifer, Nelson and Colleen...Revenge or Forgiveness....PAGE 162.
 
Chapter Nine:  Suicide and Mental Illness, 
Shock and Never Knowing Why...Archetypal Underpinnings:  From Participation Mystique to Suicide...Atttitudes About Suicide...Illness or a Senseless Choice...Guilt, Blame, and Shame of Suicide...Struggling with Mental Illness....PAGE 181
 
Part Two:  Aids to the Mourning Process 
 
Chapter Ten:  Cleansing Shadow Elements
Typical Shadow Elements:  Anger and Coming to Spirituality...Guilt, Shame...Entitlement...Going beyond Entitlement:  The Path of Necessary Suffering...Cleansing the Body:  Archetypal Motifs in Soul/Body Healing...From Cartesian Dualism to Mind/Body Connection...Holistic Healing for Grieving Mothers... PAGE  193
 
Chapter Eleven:  Journaling, Dreams, and Writing Your Life Story, 
Grieving Mothersí Writing Samples...Starting a Journal...Therapeutic Writing Techniques...Remembering and Recording Dreams...Writing Your Psycho-Spiritual Biography:  The Face You Show The World, Your Psychological Self, Your Spiritual Life...PAGE 223
 
Chapter Twelve:   Finding A Myth to Live By
My Discovery of the Myth I Was Living...Dwelling on the Significance of Antigone...Finding a New Myth to Live by,,,The Elusinian Mysteries...The Demeter/Persephone Myth...Archetypal Reactions in the Myth...The Mother/Daughter Bond...Breaking the Earthly Bond...PAGE 250

Chapter Thirteen:  Creativity:  Bringing Into Being
Creativity as Repair...Keeping Connection through Images...Creating a Home for Your Child...How Does My Child Want Me to Live...Creative Moves Towards Transcendence...Living Creatively By Honoring Special Subjective Experience...PAGE 267 
 
Chapter Fourteen: Connecting Our Inner and Outer Worlds
Synchronicity...Funerals and Mourning Rituals...Making a Sacred Journey...Protest and Advocacy...Sharing and Connecting...More About Forgiving...PAGE 290
 
Chapter Fifteen:  Living Symbolically:  Transformative Aspects of the Black Madonna and the Pieta 
Becoming an Actor in the Divine Drama...Seeking the Symbolic Life...The Black Madonna of Einsiedeln...Discovering the Pieta...Archetypal Attitudes in the Pieta...PAGE 313
 
Appendix I:  An Historical Perspective....Page i
 
Appendix II:  Movies about Grief and Reconciliation....Page xii
 
Appendix III:  Music for Mourning and Transformation....Page xvi
 
Appendix IV:  Reaching Out for Help....Page xxi